Cyber Stalkers | Trolls | Cyber Bullies

My name is Chris Bennetts and have this site up to help people that come into contact with Cyber stalkers, trolls and cyber bullies.

If you use the internet and participate in any sort of interactive online social network then the chances are you will encounter some type of cyber stalker.  There are different names given to these sad pathetic individuals including trolls and cyber bullies.  Some of them confine themselves to one site and just like to stir people up.  They enjoy the attention and reaction they get from others.  They are Trolls.  As disturbing and hurtful as they may be they are harmless in comparison to the real cyber stalker.

More dangerous are the sociopaths that that engage in cyber stalking.  They go way beyond the annoying activities of a troll.  They try to destroy peoples lives and derive satisfaction from the pain and suffering they inflict on others. These are really sick and dangerous people and I know a lot about cyber stalking because I have been a victim of a particularly nasty one who has been stalking me for the past five years.

Like many such stalkers we have never actually met.   This sicko lives in France but is actually Greek but according to him joined the French foreign legion and has retied to live in France.  At age 68 he is a sad lonely failure that has no other meaning in his life than to find people online to harass. I could pity him except for the suffering he has caused so many people.

After five years experience I have learned a lot about cyber stalking I believe I can offer people some advice that may save them a lot of grief.  I will post some of my knowledge here and hope that others will also participate in creating a resource for Cyber Stalker Help

Christopher Bennetts False arrest warrant allegations by known internet stalker.

I have been the target of a known internet troll and Cyber Stalker for a number of years now who has published many false allegations about me, and dozens of other expats in the Philippines. In the past I worked with a number of other expats to get the false allegations removed including the many fake accounts and profiles he uses.

We were successful at getting just about everything removed only to see him rebuild them again on other web addresses. For him it was a game and we all decided to stop playing his game.

Unfortunately some of the allegations have caused me grief and a few days ago they reared their ugly head again when I client came across them. For this reason I have decided to make a couple of videos to put them to rest for good.

In this first video I will deal with the arrest warrant and provide conclusive evidence that the allegation that I am a wanted criminal. I will show that the arrest warrant did exist for a short period in 2009 and that when I found out about it, I dealt with it immediately in a court of law and had the case dismissed.

The nature of the arrest warrant was a simply a vendetta from a vindictive ex-girl friend. The charges related to not paying child support and stalking. My ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend disappeared with my child after I made the first monthly payment of 50,000 pesos. My attempts to locate my child are the basis for the charge of stalking which is laughable.

I am forced to put publish this but do not want to open old wounds with my ex-girlfriend and her partner. I now have a new family, and from what I understand they still together and now living in Thailand.

I think this quote sums up much of our previous experience:

“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.”

Confucius

– Source:

Matt Wilkie’s cyber stalker

Matt WilkieMatt Wilkie has been targeted by the same cyber stalker as myself. Unlike Matt I do not like to mention the guys name as cyber stalkers live for the attention. So I try to deny him that satisfaction of seeing his name. If anyone is really interested they can view Matt’s video and will see his name and can search for his websites.

I was not aware that he also made claims that Matt Wilkie was wanted in the UK and could not return there. He has made the same false claims about myself saying I am wanted in both Australia and the Philippines.

One thing I totally agree with Matt about is that the best way to defend yourself against this guys allegations is to encourage people to visit this his websites and actually read his rants at length. Any intelligent person will quickly work out that he is a delusional nut case.

I concluded some time ago that much of what this cyber stalker writes is autobiographical. He claims to be Greek by birth and served in the French Foreign Legion and now receives a pension and lives in France after failing in his effort to live in the Philippines.

From what I understand the French foreign legion is traditionally where you run off to when you need to escape from something. So the recurring theme in his accusations about being a fugitive of justice may well have a basis in his own life. Chances are he escaped his native Greece and mostly likely the name he uses now is not his real name or his name at birth.

One of the most disturbing allegations he makes about many of his targets (I will not use the word victims) is related to sexual abuse against women and children.

He has accused me of running the largest and most perverted porn network in Asia and claimed that I own and operate some very disgusting and disturbing websites. Most of the sites are very abusive in their depiction and treatment of women

I can only assume that these are sites he is interested in. It is common for someone living in a state of cognitive dissonance to over compensate in the condemnation of that which they secretly desire. Shakespeare expressed it perfectly in Hamlet; (he) “…doth protest too much, methinks”

This is a very sick and disturbed man and I would be concerned if he was around children.

http://tropicalpenpals.wordpress.com/2014/04/26/matt-wilkie-talking-about-his-cyber-stalker-evan-iliadis/

Internet trolls have dark triad personality types

We all know what internet trolls are. They join discussions and post comments designed to upset people or generally disrupt the conversation. They lie, exaggerate, distort and intentionally misunderstand what others say in order to get a response.

They often don’t really care about the topic and will even take whatever side of the argument they feel will be the most controversial. It’s not about winning the argument – for them it’s all a game. They love to upset others.

New research confirms what we already know. These are sick and nasty sadistic people that actually enjoy making others feel bad.

Canadian researches have conducted internet studies of over 1,200 people examining their online activity including commenting. They were given personality tests to determine if there was a link between internet trolling and the Dark Triad of personality: narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy.

They discovered that Dark Triad scores were much higher in those that said trolling was one of the favorite online activities.

trollinganddarktriadscores

You can see in the above diagram that the Dark Triad scores are very high among the trolling group. So high in fact that the report concluded there is a direct correlation between trolls and Dark Triad personality types.

“… the associations between sadism and GAIT (Global Assessment of Internet Trolling) scores were so strong that it might be said that online trolls are prototypical everyday sadists.”

Some trolls confine themselves to harassing people on specific platforms while others take it further and start to pursue their target wherever they can find them online. The underlying personality type or should I say disorder are much the same between a troll and a cyber stalker / cyber bully.

Their objective is to find someone that will engage with them. Someone that will play their game. They set the rules of the game and the rules are not obvious to their victims. They will also change the rules anytime they – in other words it’s a game you cannot win.

 

 

Originally posted to:

http://cyberbullyingandstalkingguide.com/cyberbullyingarticles/internet-trolls-dark-triad-personality-types/

Wil Wheatons advice on dealing with Bullies

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Fans of Star trek will recognize Wil Wheaton and last year at the Denver Comic Con he was asked a question about being called a nerd. Watch his response in this video where he describes that…

When I was a boy I was called a nerd all the time. Because I didn’t like sports, I loved to read, I liked math and science, I thought school was really cool — and it hurt a lot. Because it’s never OK when a person makes fun of you for something you didn’t choose. You know, we don’t choose to be nerds. We can’t help it that we like these things, and we shouldn’t apologize for liking these things.

The most important thing Wheaton said was that…

When a person makes fun of you, when a person is cruel to you, it has nothing to do with you. It’s not about what you said. It’s not about what you did. It’s not about what you love. It’s about them feeling bad about themselves.

This is relevant to just about all forms of online harassment. It applies to cyber bullies and cyber stalkers. They target you because of problems they have. When we understand them they become an object of pity and power is transferred. They lose power over you and you will feel empowered to deal with their harassment.

This video has gone viral as it should and there has been a follow up by the mother of the girl that asked the question on Reddit.

That was my daughter. She and the girl that bullied her are cool with each other this year. They aren’t in the same class, though. This year has been a good year, but she noticed another little girl in her class kept getting picked on by the other students. She became this girl’s friend and stands up for her when the other kids are being mean.

and then a response from Wheaton on his website

I really try my best to be the person I want other people to be. I don’t always succeed, but when I see things like this and hear from people who have been touched or inspired by something I said or did in a positive way, it reminds me how important it is to do everything we can to be awesome.

Originally published http://cyberbullyingandstalkingguide.com/cyberbullyingarticles/wil-wheatons-advice-dealing-bullies/

Cyber Bullying and Stalking Guide Launched

I have just released by Cyber Bullying and Stalking Guide for 2013.  This is the most comprehensive guide for victims of online harassment. Included with the guide is hand holding in a members area where i am there to help victims implement the strategies and techniques described in the book.

Read more about the new guide here:

Cyber Bullying and Stalking Guide
 

I am also offering a range of services to victims on my personal website http://chrisbennetts.org  helping victims of cyber stalking website.

Cyber Bully | Cyber Stalker | Cyber Troll

These all point to the same thing.  Online Harassment.

Cyber Bully is a term popular for describing online harassment by younger people.

Cyber Stalker is the term used to describe online harassment by adults

Cyber Troll is actually an activity a cyber stalker does in order to bait prospective new victims.

The term I prefer to use is simply cyber stalker. Some cyber stalkers have a personal vendetta against and individual.  This may have happened offline and they take their gripe online.   Other Cyber Stalkers like Evan Iliads have not even met most of the people he stalks and actually lives on a different continent. They setup dozens of fake profiles and use them to harass their victims online with no research, no facts – just lies.  Truth is not an important consideration for Evan Iliadis.

He likes to troll from like the  Live in the philippines forums   and bait people.  He claims to be on a crusade to rid the Philippines of Sexpats and criminals but none of the people he targets can even remotely be described as Sexpats and criminals.

For most cyber stalkers its all just a game.  Evan Iliadis is a prime example of a delusional cyber stalker in his own world.  He started his cyber stalking life after being kicked out of Rotary in the Philippines and created a Rotary hate site VAP RIP OFF where he attacked his fellow Rotarians but they simply refused to respond or comment .  He had to find someone else to play his game and that is when he setup his phoney crusade against Philippines sexpats and criminals. Recently he has changed his title to Crusader against people trafficking but all he does his harass the same group of people over the most trivial and silly things.

Internet Troll Evan Iliadis

War with a Cyber Stalker

I did some keyword and social media research on my cyber stalker and have determined that no one is actually interested in what he has to say.  He has been stalking for five years and claimed to have a following but in reality he is alone.  A few misguided people assisted him early in his cyber stalking days believing his story that he was running a campaign to expose sexpats and criminals in the Philippines on his Philippines Sexpats Wall of Shame ( I link here to a parody site about him and not to his site) .  They soon realised he was a total fraud.

Unfortunately some people have tried to use Evan Iliadis to pursuer their own personal vendetta against others.  This is a big mistake as every single person that has done this has discovered.  Evan run’s his own agenda and when there is conflict with others he will turn on them in a flash.  Evan Iliadis is now totally isolated.

I have estimated that there are only about 20 people in the entire world that follow his cyber stalking and that includes at least ten of his victims.

One the evaniliadis.info site there are two posts that analysis the interest and traffic Evan’s blogs and campaigns would receive

http://evaniliadis.info/2012/10/evan-iliadis-delusions-of-grandeur/

http://evaniliadis.info/2012/10/delusions-of-grandeur-part-ii-more-proof-that-evan-ilaidis-is-a-nobody/

These two posts, one focused on Search Engine Traffic and the other on Social signals, show that there is zero interest in Evan’s blogs

Anyone that is a cyber stalker should take comfort in such data as it shows that the material a cyber stalker publishes seldom is of little interest to anyone.